I am not sure why, but the idea of creating a birth plan was a little intimidating to me. I didn’t know what all to include. I didn’t want to come off as rude or abrasive to the hospital staff. I didn’t want to be one of “those moms” that the nurses rolled their eyes at behind their back.

I procrastinated and put it off for the longest time. I wasn’t even sure if I was going to do one. But after many conversations with my husband and a lot of research into various birth plans, we decided we did want one. I think it’s important to let everyone know exactly what you want out of this experience. In the moment, things can get hectic and we may feel too overwhelmed to stand up for what we want. Obviously, things can go wrong and we may have to divert from our dream, but ultimately, we wanted our hopes, wants, and dreams to be well-known from the moment we step into Labor and Delivery.

There are a lot of beautiful ones online like this one and this one that I would recommend, but we decided those weren’t for us and went for a much simpler choice.

If you’re curious about our personal birth plan and the various items we included on it, I’ve included some tips below. These are our personal wants and needs – so yours may look very different! I hope this helps anyone who is trying to write their own birth plan and isn’t sure what to include.

  1. First and foremost, include a simple thank you to the staff who will be assisting you through your labor. A little gratitude can go a long way!
  2. Then, we listed my husband and I’s information and stated that we may request additional attendees. We do not plan on having anyone else in the delivery room with us, but we wanted to include that statement in case we change our minds.
  3. Next, we listed our preferences. We are trying to achieve a natural birth, if possible. Therefore, we stipulated no pain medication, minimal medical interventions, intermittent external fetal monitoring, freedom of movement, no episiotomy, etc.
  4. Finally, we requested some postpartum care such as immediate skin to skin contact, delayed cord clamping, delayed routine newborn procedures, and preferred circumcision procedures.
  5. Most importantly, we ended our birth plan with the following statement:

“Ultimately the health of mother and baby are the most important to us. We understand that situations may arise in which we would need to deviate from our preferences. We trust in your judgment and that you will communicate with us throughout our birth process. Thank you again for your help and support for the duration of our stay.”

I believe this statement is the most important piece of the document. While the above list indicates our ideal birth plan, labor is a chaotic time where things may go wrong and we may have to deviate from this list. Knowing what you want out of the experience while keeping an open mind is essential.

Our little boy will be here any day now everybody! Fingers crossed that everything goes smoothly and we have our dream experience!

How did your birth go? Did you have to deviate from your birth plan? Let me know below!